Why You Are Not More Successful At Your Goals
Have a definitive plan as to how you want to achieve your success.
Trying to achieve something always works best when you have a plan. Usually anyone who tries to achieve something without a plan will not make it very far. Having a plan will not only keep you structured but it will also help you stay pointed in a certain direction. Working as a trainer and nutritionist, almost everything with clients tends to be goal oriented. Having a definitive plan as to what you want to achieve, how long it’s going to take, and what it’s going to take to get there will all make going down that road a lot easier.
Be honest with your assessment of yourself.
They always say honesty is the best policy, and that applies to ourselves also. One of the hardest things for people to do is to take a step back and take a good long honest look at themselves or what they are doing. I experience this lots of times with clients and competitors. A client will come in and not be sure as to why their measurements are off.
They utter the infamous words of “I did everything on the plan. I don’t understand what happened!”
In my experience whenever you hear those words you just have to dig a little deeper to find the answer. Within a few questions the answer usually comes out. They will have forgotten they did something or had a bite of something. They are not meaning any harm but at the time they are also not making an honest assessment of how their actions may affect their long term goals.
I have had similar experiences with some of my athletes and competitors too. They may have felt they should have finished or placed at a certain spot and sometimes that isn’t the case. A lot of times I will ask them to look at missed workouts, meals, practices, and evaluate what they did or did not do leading to their competition because this is usually an indication of why things turned out the way they did.
Improve your work output.
The honest truth is success does not come easy for 90 percent of people. If you want to be successful you have to work at it very hard. Most people think they work a lot harder then they actually do. If you look at a lot of successful people, with their success has come a lot of long hours, sleepless nights, and a heavy workload at times.
It’s like the saying says “Everyone wants to be the best until they understand what it takes to be the best! Then there is only a handful of us left!”
Improve with your brain and not your ego.
This one is very hard for a lot of people to conceptualize. Sometimes getting better and being successful means doing what you need and not what you want. People tend to gravitate towards things that they like or are good at. It is human nature to avoid the unpleasant but sometimes “unpleasant” is exactly what we need. When you improve with your brain, you understand that although you may not like something getting better at it, will benefit you in the long run. Improving with your ego does not allow you to see past what you are good at or like and work on other areas that actually need the improvement. Whenever we cannot separate what we “want” from what we “need” we will never achieve what we want in the long run.
Listen to sound advice.
One of the best things we can get when we are trying to be successful is input and feedback from knowledgeable sources. If a source has vast more knowledge, experience, and understanding in an area than you, it would be in the best interest of success for you to soak in what you are given. The best thing you can do for yourself is close your mouth, listen, and absorb what is being said. If you keep getting sound advice and you keep not listening, the problem is not the source but more than likely you. In the fitness world if you continue to do this you will soon get labeled as “uncoachable”. Once you start to get this label, that sound knowledge and advice will start to come less and less often. If you are lucky enough to have such opportunities or knowledge around don’t squander that.
Take the spotlight off of yourself.
Sure being successful can be about your success but you will find you can get a lot further by helping others with their success too. The more you are willing to help others, the more others will be willing to help you. Like-minded people gravitate towards each other much like success gravitates towards success. People are more willing to help someone they view as sharing or concerned about others rather than someone they see as egotistical or self-absorbed. Helping someone else get better only improves you as a person. You may help elevate someone one day and later on down the road they may in turn be able to further your success because now they are in a position neither one of you foresaw coming.